February 17th, 2026

Someone once asked me, “would you rather be a Mordecai or a Haman?” Not being familiar with this story, I had to look it up.

Read Esther 4-7, ask yourself the same question, and then ask yourself: “would I rather have anyone else than Esther in my corner?”

Esther’s story shows that, even in desperate circumstances with the most at stake, communication can be honorable and respectful.

Approaching King Xerxes without invitation could cost her life. Yet she prepares carefully, fasts, seeks counsel, and then approaches him with humility. When she speaks, her tone is measured and wise.

Esther does not attack. She does not shame. She does not get dramatic or manipulative. She communicates strategically, respectfully, and courageously.

There is a false narrative that respectful communication is weak. Scripture disagrees. Esther demonstrates grace (strength under control). She honors the king’s authority while confronting injustice.

Healthy communication between men and women requires both courage and grace:

• Courage to speak the truth.
  
• Grace in how it is delivered.

Respectful tone does not dilute conviction — it dignifies it.  And it just might help you avoid very, very bad consequences.

Something to ponder today:  Is there a difficult conversation I’ve avoided because I confuse courage with aggression or respect with silence?